Mistakes are the building blocks of the learning experience
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“Do not fear mistakes. There are none.” — Miles Davis
Miles Davis famously told players in his band there are no wrong notes. ‘Wrong notes’ are simply notes we haven’t resolved yet. With the right approach, ‘mistakes’ stir our creativity and mentally push our boundaries. The ‘wrong notes’ push us to find a way to resolve them beautifully, often in a way we never would have thought of if we hadn’t unintentionally created the need and possibility.
It is never a mistake if you learn something.
A Look at Perfection, What’s Good, and Being Enough
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I have a touch of a perfection streak. Not always, but often enough to get in the way some times. When I was a carpenter, I became acutely aware of the dynamic between my desire to have my work be spot on and my clients’ desires for efficient, swift work. Most people never actually look at the trim in a house and don’t care if the trim behind the toilet was crafted with the care and precision of a Renaissance sculptor. They want it done quickly, without breaking their bank, so they can put their lives back in order.
I had been trying to do the very best I could. To have each thing I created serve as representation of who I hoped I might be. The work, and I, was tedious and tense. It wasn’t working out well for me. Instead of, “Is this the best I am capable of?,” I had to start asking myself some new questions:
Is this good enough?
A search for authenticity in the world of personal growth
SELF-HELP, PERSONAL GROWTH & HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FOR REAL PEOPLE
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Take a quick look around the worlds of self-help, personal growth, and human development. From all the schpiels, schticks, and marketing fluff you’ll see a lot of people who seem to be crushing life, hashtagging their hearts out, living their best lives, and blissed out of their minds. All. The. Time.
As a Coach, there is pressure to fully have my shit together, 100 percent of the time, and to make damn sure the world knows it.
But I ain’t buying that, and I ain’t playing along.
Creative Destruction: Golder Goldstein's Blog
Nearly every time I sit down to write, to create, something gets destroyed.