A Look at Perfection, What’s Good, and Being Enough
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I have a touch of a perfection streak. Not always, but often enough to get in the way some times. When I was a carpenter, I became acutely aware of the dynamic between my desire to have my work be spot on and my clients’ desires for efficient, swift work. Most people never actually look at the trim in a house and don’t care if the trim behind the toilet was crafted with the care and precision of a Renaissance sculptor. They want it done quickly, without breaking their bank, so they can put their lives back in order.
I had been trying to do the very best I could. To have each thing I created serve as representation of who I hoped I might be. The work, and I, was tedious and tense. It wasn’t working out well for me. Instead of, “Is this the best I am capable of?,” I had to start asking myself some new questions:
Is this good enough?
A search for authenticity in the world of personal growth
SELF-HELP, PERSONAL GROWTH & HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FOR REAL PEOPLE
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Take a quick look around the worlds of self-help, personal growth, and human development. From all the schpiels, schticks, and marketing fluff you’ll see a lot of people who seem to be crushing life, hashtagging their hearts out, living their best lives, and blissed out of their minds. All. The. Time.
As a Coach, there is pressure to fully have my shit together, 100 percent of the time, and to make damn sure the world knows it.
But I ain’t buying that, and I ain’t playing along.
Amidst the go-go-go and the self-assumed pressure of perceived expectations and obligations, it is easy to forget the core questions of Who and Why. In the pursuit of "progress," I've spent much of the past year inside, checking the boxes for certification and working to make tangible headway in my practice, often based on what the experts say and on what other folks are doing. And while I'm grateful for what I've received and created, I am reminded how delicate the balance is, between making time for my business and my learning, and making time for the passions and pursuit that don't initially seem to contribute tangibly to those pursuits.
When starting down this path a year ago and I had to make some conscious concessions regarding how I allocate my time, rock climbing was one of the activities I decided to shelf for a while. I've missed it at times, but felt content with my trade-offs. Of all the outdoor pursuits I enjoy, I find rock climbing's skill set to be the most perishable--the technical skills, fitness, and trust in gear and feet all quickly fading without maintenance--making the coming back to climbing at times a daunting and humbling endeavor.
Creative Destruction: Golder Goldstein's Blog
Nearly every time I sit down to write, to create, something gets destroyed.