Flexible, Minimalist Systems for People Who Don’t Like-but need!-Systems
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I have a slightly love-hate relationship with routines and systems. I need the structure, but I crave freshness and spontaneity, even if I’m not always sure what to do with it. Left to my own whims and random impulses, I invariably end up exploring the backroads. I may thrive for a while, but sooner or later I hit a few potholes and wheels come off.
For a while I have courted the sweet spot of structure between going completely free-range and feral — with it’s inevitable inconsistencies in my mood, energy, and productivity — and having overly rigid systems that invariably I jettison when they feel stiff.
My shift to freelancing and working from home — not to mention physical / social distancing — only intensified my struggle to find the right amount of structure for myself: a way to have enough of a routine to thrive without getting the stale feeling and push back that I know too well.
In my search for the sweet spot, I’ve found an approach to structuring my days that gives me just enough structure while maintaining the freedom and flexibility I crave.
Mistakes are the building blocks of the learning experience
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“Do not fear mistakes. There are none.” — Miles Davis
Miles Davis famously told players in his band there are no wrong notes. ‘Wrong notes’ are simply notes we haven’t resolved yet. With the right approach, ‘mistakes’ stir our creativity and mentally push our boundaries. The ‘wrong notes’ push us to find a way to resolve them beautifully, often in a way we never would have thought of if we hadn’t unintentionally created the need and possibility.
It is never a mistake if you learn something.
Can creativity exist without depression?Golder Goldstein
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There is a side of me that I like to be seen — my creative side: capable, flowing, and confident. Oozing answers, inspiration and energy. I love to experience it myself and for it to be seen, acknowledged, and lauded by others.
And then, there is another side of me: one I prefer to keep hidden. That I’m reticent to have witnessed by the world at-large and by my closest friends and family. That is the depressive, dark and brooding side of me. For years I have fought with it, wrestling with its presence, its persistence, and its sudden reappearances.
A Look at Perfection, What’s Good, and Being Enough
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I have a touch of a perfection streak. Not always, but often enough to get in the way some times. When I was a carpenter, I became acutely aware of the dynamic between my desire to have my work be spot on and my clients’ desires for efficient, swift work. Most people never actually look at the trim in a house and don’t care if the trim behind the toilet was crafted with the care and precision of a Renaissance sculptor. They want it done quickly, without breaking their bank, so they can put their lives back in order.
I had been trying to do the very best I could. To have each thing I created serve as representation of who I hoped I might be. The work, and I, was tedious and tense. It wasn’t working out well for me. Instead of, “Is this the best I am capable of?,” I had to start asking myself some new questions:
Is this good enough?
A search for authenticity in the world of personal growth
SELF-HELP, PERSONAL GROWTH & HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FOR REAL PEOPLE
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Take a quick look around the worlds of self-help, personal growth, and human development. From all the schpiels, schticks, and marketing fluff you’ll see a lot of people who seem to be crushing life, hashtagging their hearts out, living their best lives, and blissed out of their minds. All. The. Time.
As a Coach, there is pressure to fully have my shit together, 100 percent of the time, and to make damn sure the world knows it.
But I ain’t buying that, and I ain’t playing along.
Creative Destruction: Golder Goldstein's Blog
Nearly every time I sit down to write, to create, something gets destroyed.